Problem-Solving needs time.
生活中,我們一遇到問題,就想立馬找到解決辦法,當(dāng)問題遲遲得不到解決時(shí),我們不想再忍受解決問題時(shí)的痛苦和不適時(shí),我們就會(huì)兩手一攤,“我也無能為力了”。其實(shí)這也是一種延遲滿足的行為。解決辦法就好比一種滿足,人們不能夠一直探索找到問題的解決辦法就用“我也無能為力了”來實(shí)現(xiàn)這種滿足。
還有一種心理就是想當(dāng)然的以為問題自己會(huì)走開,這類人趨向于忽略問題,認(rèn)為問題不存在,以為問題真的就不存在了,其實(shí)這樣只會(huì)讓問題越來越嚴(yán)重。這也是延遲滿足的一種現(xiàn)象。“Confronting problems is painful. To willingly confront a priblem early, before we are forced to confront it by circumstance, means to put aside something pleasant or less painful for smething more painful.”
have the the foggiest idea of :完全不知道
defect:缺點(diǎn),不足
unfailing:始終如一的,不倦的
resignedly:聽天由命的
hassel困難,麻煩
dead broke:身無分文的