印度哲學(xué)家克里希那穆提曾經(jīng)說，不帶評論的觀察是人類智力的最高形式。不帶評論的觀察是只陳述客觀事實，不發(fā)表任何評論，不帶任何評論字眼，你的話語便不會帶任何感情色彩。這就能避免聽者產(chǎn)生任何情緒波動，不會給聽者造成任何的傷害。
語言是一種向外傳遞的能量，它不僅是一種信息的傳遞，更重要的是一種能夠作用于聽者的能量，特別是帶有評論或感情色彩的語言，在聽者的心里能產(chǎn)生正面或負面的能量。讓人產(chǎn)生悲傷、難過、失望、絕望等負面情緒的語言都可以稱為暴力語言。所以非暴力溝通的第一步就是觀察,客觀的陳述事實，不帶任何評論。
但是我認為和任何人都能夠溝通順暢的關(guān)鍵，是把語言當(dāng)作一種正能量的傳播，任何一句話都出自于愛。每一句話都能讓人感受到愛，讓人溫暖，讓人感動，這是高手才能達到的溝通效果。這也是所謂的口吐蓮花，每說出一句話，都像送出一朵清香的蓮花，讓人感到沁人心脾。這便是最高境界的溝通。
The famous Indian philosopher Jiddu Krishnamurti once said observation without comments is the most profounding intelligence. Objective statements without comment are just telling the truth, so it won't result in any emotion or hurt any of the audience.
Words can bring you energy, it's not only a kind of information transferring, but also give you the energy that words take, especially words with emotion or comments will bring positive or negative energy to you.? Any words that make you feel sad, devastated, disappointed or desperate are called violent words. So the first step of nonvoilent communication is stating the truth without any comments.
However, I have my own point of view on communication. The secret of good communication with anyone is use your language or words as a? tool to transfer positive energy to people around you. Make sure every sentence from your mouth originated from love and the person who hear your words feel beloved, warm or moved. And kind words are like flowers which bring you sweet smell and comfort. This is the highest level of communication, I think.
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